Unfit for purpose?

This week I read an article about this generation, the 30-40s, which seem to be unable to be in or hold up relationships. It made me wonder if this really is the case.

Why does it look as if there are so many single people, supposedly looking for love but seeming unable to find it? Are we looking in the wrong places? Do we not see it if it is right in front of our eyes? Continue reading

Not looking, really!

What happens when you do not spend too many hours in a week on online dating sites and apps? What happens, when you decide to take a break of meeting people that you know you will never see again, and that maybe were a waste of time (although you probably learned a lesson or two). What happens when you decide to just focus on yourself and enjoy life.

Well, I have done exactly this for the last four months, and trust me – it was needed. Continue reading

Keeping an open mind

I have always prided myself¬†in being a strong woman, who can look out for herself. Since I was young I had to work hard for the things I wanted. My parents always supported me, of course, but I cannot remember many instances when I had a ‘free ride’. I grew up to be an independent person.

Which is a good attribute. But, at the moment I have had enough of being strong all the time. Strong for my family, strong for my friends, strong in my job. I am longing for someone or some people to look out for me for a change. Maybe that is one of the reasons why I (desperately?) look for Mr Right?

I went to an event yesterday. It was one of these advice workshops, with about 500 women attending. Continue reading

Not just a pretty face

I am a good looking woman, successful in my job, I love a nice glass of champagne and I also love a good pint of beer. What really bothers me with all these online dating websites and applications: guys only see a gorgeous women, but do not expect much else.

But, I have so much more to offer than just a pretty face! Usually men are surprised when they hear that I like a good pint of beer. Continue reading

Reminiscense or birthday jitters

It is my birthday next week and I started looking back on the last year. I’ve been through quite a turmoil of emotions. Gosh, this sounds dramatic, I know. And I am hoping I am not the only one doing this – reminiscing -, it makes me sound like an old woman looking back on her life… ha ha. It is nothing that serious, I promise. Being on my own and trying to stand my ground in this big city does that to me.

But I did think about the issues of the heart, my family and my friends. The biggest issue for me is, that I have lost my best friend. Continue reading

I need a break

I am back from holidays. What a great time I had, no worries, enjoying every day, no thought wasted on men. Really! I do love those holidays, which ground you again and make you realise what is important in life and what is just added weight.

My resolution: I will not go on any dates in August, I need a break! I need to revisit my approach on how to find Mr Right, and most importantly I need to relax again. My search in the last months has caused too much distress and upset, wasted tears and energy. I do not want to and cannot go on like this. I know, this sounds rather serious, but I mean it. Fingers crossed I will be able to stick to it. There must be a fun way of dating. I remember it being fun and exciting not too long ago. Is there such a thing as ‘date surfeit’? Continue reading

The disappearing act

To not make you wonder and hold your breath and your fingers crossed any longer, I want to release you: there won’t be a second date after all… What a huge disappointment.

How I know this? Well, I guessed (!). I’m assuming that not replying to my texts for ¬†five days is a clear enough sign of ‘sorry, not interested anymore’. Which is fine, wouldn’t it be for the cowardice behaviour! Continue reading