The rules of the game

I have mentioned it already: I don’t like playing games. What is the point? In worst case you only hurt the other person, it leads to misunderstandings, and you are not being yourself. And isn’t that rule number one (and in fact the only rule): always be yourself.

After waiting for hours or sometimes days for the other person to be in touch, why would you then delay your reply when all you feel is joy (and a little bit of relief ;-)) and you want to tell him that you are looking at his text, smiling like the cat that got the cream, and text back immediately. Or maybe you even want to pick-up the phone and talk to him! Yes – do it, don’t be afraid!

Instead we believe, that an immediate reply would make us look too eager, we let us talk into ‘rules of play’ by people who have probably not been single for years. And then we wonder why the guy does the same to us. And admit it: we don’t like to be served what we dished out before…

What other ‘rules’ are there? Don’t go home with him before the third date. He has to pay at the first date. Do not kiss on the first date. Never offer a Friday or Saturday as a first date day. My only rule is: follow your gut instinct and what feels right. Don’t listen to the rest. If the air is full of energy and excitement and lust, what the hell, kiss on the first date! If you know you will be relaxed and in a good state of mind on Saturday night, meet him for your first date. There is no such thing as right or wrong as long as you are comfortable with it.

After all, you don’t want to be in a situation where you regret not having done this or having done that because ‘someone told you so’… Follow your heart, and it will always be the right path!


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